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Wednesday, February 28, 2007 ( 12:22 PM ) shut up christine another email in my box today. This time from Nirali, a woman I've never met but admire immensely. The subject line reads "All there is..." Dear All, It has been a while. Hope you are all doing good :) There is surely quite a lot to share since I came back to India. Many new changes in life. Some external... and many more internal. However, for now, I would like to share this article that was forwarded to me. "I Love You" , the 3 most important words we can say to anyone, to everyone, to everything ...to the Divine that resides not only within us, but also in the space in between. Love, Nirali The World's Most Unusual Therapist ~ By Dr. Joe Vitale Two years ago, I heard about a therapist in Hawaii who cured a complete ward of criminally insane patients--without ever seeing any of them. The psychologist would study an inmate's chart and then look within himself to see how he created that person's illness. As he improved himself, the patient improved. When I first heard this story, I thought it was an urban legend. How could anyone heal anyone else by healing himself? How could even the best self-improvement master cure the criminally insane? It didn't make any sense. It wasn't logical, so I dismissed the story. However, I heard it again a year later. I heard that the therapist had used a Hawaiian healing process called ho 'oponopono. I had never heard of it, yet I couldn't let it leave my mind. If the story was at all true, I had to know more. I had always understood total responsibility to mean that I am responsible for what I think and do. Beyond that, it's out of my hands. I think that most people think of total responsibility that way. We're responsible for what we do, not what anyone else does--but that's wrong. The Hawaiian therapist who healed those mentally ill people would teach me an advanced new perspective about total responsibility. His name is Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len. We probably spend an hour talking on our first phone call. I asked him to tell me the complete story of his work as a therapist. He explained that he worked at Hawaii State Hospital for four years. That ward where they kept the criminally insane was dangerous. Psychologists quit on a monthly basis. The staff called in sick a lot or simply quit. People would walk through that ward with their backs against the wall, afraid of being attacked by patients. It was not a pleasant place to live, work, or visit. Dr. Len told me that he never saw patients. He agreed to have an office and to review their files. While he looked at those files, he would work on himself. As he worked on himself, patients began to heal. After a few months, patients that had to be shackled were being allowed to walk freely, he told me. Others who had to be heavily medicated were getting off their medications. And those who had no chance of ever being released were being freed. I was in awe. Not only that, he went on, but the staff began to enjoy coming to work. Absenteeism and turnover disappeared. We ended up with more staff than we needed because patients were being released, and all the staff was showing up to work. Today, that ward is closed. This is where I had to ask the million dollar question: What were you doing within yourself that caused those people to change? I was simply healing the part of me that created them, he said. I didn't understand. Dr. Len explained that total responsibility for your life means that everything in your life- simply because it is in your life--is your responsibility. In a literal sense the entire world is your creation. Whew. This is tough to swallow. Being responsible for what I say or do is one thing. Being responsible for what everyone in my life says or does is quite another. Yet, the truth is this: if you take complete responsibility for your life, then everything you see, hear, taste, touch, or in any way experience is your responsibility because it is in your life. This means that terrorist activity, the president, the economy--anything you experience and don't like--is up for you to heal. They don't exist, in a manner of speaking, except as projections from inside you. The problem isn't with them, it's with you, and to change them, you have to change you. I know this is tough to grasp, let alone accept or actually live. Blame is far easier than total responsibility, but as I spoke with Dr. Len, I began to realize that healing for him and in ho 'oponopono means loving yourself. If you want to improve your life, you have to heal your life. If you want to cure anyone--even a mentally ill criminal--you do it by healing you. I asked Dr. Len how he went about healing himself. What was he doing, exactly, when he looked at those patients' files? I just kept saying, 'I'm sorry' and 'I love you' over and over again, he explained. That's it? That's it. Turns out that loving yourself is the greatest way to improve yourself, and as you improve yourself, you improve your world. Let me give you a quick example of how this works: one day, someone sent me an email that upset me. In the past I would have handled it by working on my emotional hot buttons or by trying to reason with the person who sent the nasty message. This time, I decided to try Dr. Len's method. I kept silently saying, I'm sorry and I love you, I didn't say it to anyone in particular. I was simply evoking the spirit of love to heal within me what was creating the outer circumstance. Within an hour I got an e-mail from the same person. He apologized for his previous message. Keep in mind that I didn't take any outward action to get that apology. I didn't even write him back. Yet, by saying I love you, I somehow healed within me what was creating him. I later attended a ho 'oponopono workshop run by Dr. Len. He's now 70 years old, considered a grandfatherly shaman, and is somewhat reclusive. He praised my book, The Attractor Factor. He told me that as I improve myself, my book's vibration will raise, and everyone will feel it when they read it. In short, as I improve, my readers will improve. What about the books that are already sold and out there? I asked. They aren't out there, he explained, once again blowing my mind with his mystic wisdom. They are still in you. In short, there is no out there. It would take a whole book to explain this advanced technique with the depth it deserves. Suffice it to say that whenever you want to improve anything in your life, there's only one place to look: inside you. When you look, do it with love. By Joe Vitale Amazing! Like Joe, since discovering Ho'oponopono, I have been on a quest for more and more. I cannot get enough of it. This message sings inside me. I have been reading, studying AND practicing Ho'oponopono ever since. How do I practice Ho'oponopono? It's simple. By softly, silently and mentally saying I Love You in the space between my words, the space between my thoughts, the space between my breath all day long. If you would like to read more about this beautiful updated, yet ancient healing process you can check out this unusual therapist, named Ihaleakala Hew Len, and the updated ho'oponopono process at http://www.hooponopono.org/ I hope you enjoy Ho'oponopono as much as I AM! I Love You I Love You I Love You i love you! -Kit # Tuesday, February 27, 2007 ( 7:56 AM ) shut up christine as i get ready to start another work day, i find this in my inbox this morning: Evolving From Hope to Hopelessness, Margaret Wheatley [Rudolf Bahro said,] "When the forms of an old culture are dying, the new culture is created by a few people who are not afraid to be insecure." Could insecurity, self-doubt, be a good trait? I find it hard to imagine how I can work for the future without feeling grounded in the belief that my actions will make a difference. But Bahro offers a new prospect, that feeling insecure, even groundless, might actually increase my ability to stay in the work. [...] Vaclav Havel helped me become further attracted to insecurity and not-knowing: "Hope," he states, "is not the conviction that something will turn out well, but the certainty that something makes sense regardless of how it turns out." Havel seems to be describing not hope, but hopelessness. Being liberated from results, giving up outcomes, doing what feels right rather than effective. He helps me recall the Buddhist teaching that hopelessness is not the opposite of hope. Fear is. Hope and fear are inescapable partners. Anytime we hope for a certain outcome, and work hard to make it happen, then we also introduce fear-fear of failing, fear of loss. Hopelessness is free of fear and thus can feel quite liberating. I've listened to others describe this state. Unburdened of strong emotions, they describe the miraculous appearance of clarity and energy. Thomas Merton, the late Christian mystic, clarified further the journey into hopelessness. In a letter to a friend, he advised: "Do not depend on the hope of results . . .you may have to face the fact that your work will be apparently worthless and even achieve no result at all, if not perhaps results opposite to what you expect. As you get used to this idea, you start more and more to concentrate not on the results, but on the value, the rightness, the truth of the work itself. . . .you gradually struggle less and less for an idea and more and more for specific people. . . In the end, it is the reality of personal relationship that saves everything." [...] Thomas Merton was right: We are consoled and strengthened by being hopeless together. We don't need specific outcomes. We need each other. Hopelessness has surprised me with patience. As I abandon the pursuit of effectiveness, and watch my anxiety fade, patience appears. --Margaret Wheatley
Thursday, February 22, 2007 ( 7:10 PM ) shut up christine oh have you ever had a realization so insanely powerful that you can literally feel the synapses firing away in your brain and the change in you, your growth, is so instantaneous and huge, you actually believe that one minute ago the old you would have been crushed by the sheer magnitude of your unfinished thought dang! # Friday, February 16, 2007 ( 5:02 PM ) shut up christine  Mana!!! in LA! my favorite mexican band en todo el mundo!! couldn't afford a ticket anyway. ijole. sunday. blanket outside the ampitheatre? anyone???????????? # Wednesday, February 14, 2007 ( 10:40 PM ) shut up christine today was just one of those days when you wake up at 4:30am for work... you need to print out 30 pages and your printer runs out of ink... you get off the phone with someone, and already have 3 missed calls... you have 15 minutes to be somewhere that's 20 minutes away, and your gas tank is empty... 10 minutes before the big event, the one person you really needed to be there calls to say they can't make it... you turn off the air in your car and roll up the windows to decrease wind resistance/save gas, you sweat profusely, then wonder if anyone else will smell your stank or notice the sweat stains on your shirt... your new shoes cut your right achilles heel, you bleed on your slacks... you accidentally tell parents to pick up their kids at 4:45, when you meant 4:00... on the flip side you come home after a long day and your dinner has been prepared by the one and only man in your life - your dad :) ... not only are you still standing but you handled it like a rockstar... so you eat an entire Toblerone chocolate bar in 10 minutes, and you deserve it. happy valentine's day! # Thursday, February 08, 2007 ( 8:29 PM ) shut up christine good advice. the trick is to find that point where what you are coincides with the world in some way where it could possibly fit in and then suddenly your dream is there and you step into the frame and suddenly everything in the room is meaningful and you were born to be in it and everything is animated and you belong there, in it. how are you ever going to figure that out unless you keep doing stupid things? live in your passions don't try to rationalize it too much just move toward what feels most real they can do anything they want however crazy it is whether it makes sense or whether or not it's useful by any conventional category maybe they will discover something in themselves and maybe they'll discover that focal plane between them and the world and maybe they'll discover a life it's a difficult thing, it requires courage and you have to hope you'll find it -larry harvey # Wednesday, February 07, 2007 ( 1:04 PM ) shut up christine handle it. # Thursday, February 01, 2007 ( 1:24 AM ) shut up christine oh man i've been going out and partying every night! and by going out and partying i mean staying home and working so many things have gone wrong this week has been challenging. when the going gets tough, i think you can learn a lot about yourself one little thing i've learned this week: if you're giving me directions, please don't say "go north on blahblah st" north, east, west, south - these things mean nothing to me. nothing! if i'm just driving down a street, my brain cannot grasp the concept unless I have a map in front of me. "drive towards the ocean (how do I know where the ocean is?) then go south" heh? you might as well be speaking in latin. right or left, that's all i need to know thanks <3 <3 <3 # |
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